Do we hear wedding bells? Well, you are engaged for a while now, and everything is almost ready for the most important day of your couple’s life. There are only one or two things left to finish the preparations, and you are finally ready to write the perfect, fabulous, most adorable, and full of love vow, and… you are stuck.

You just can’t express your feelings to your future spouse in a proper way. You are overwhelmed and confused, and we get it: writing wedding vows is no joke, and almost every person needs a little help for this matter.

So today, we prepared a little list of tips on how to write wedding vows for your special day with no pain attached. So, let’s get started, shall we?

Cooperate with your fiance

As with everything in a relationship, communication is the key here. If you are a control freak or just have a specific vision of your wedding, it is better to ask your fiance what they plan to say. There was a story with a friend of mine when they planned to write a song for their fiance. A rap song from wedding quotes they both loved, to be exact.

But, when the fiance learned about this plan, they were far from being happy. So the plan was canceled, which is bad because the song was good.

So if you don’t want to end up in a situation like this, it is a good idea to prepare in advance and talk with your fiance about their and your expectations. It will not hurt you in any way because you can still keep them secret from each other. However, if you are on the same page, there’s a better chance that everything will go smoothly on the big day.

Let’s get inspired!

A little kick of inspiration will not hurt, right? Fortunately, today we have Netflix with an endless library of romantic movies and Audible with a huge collection of classic romances.

You can get a lot of inspiration from vows from movies, love songs, comic books, or even YouTube videos. If you still need something more, grab your notebook, go outside to a park, city square, or a shop if it is your thing, and try to find your muse. Write down everything that comes to you, and eventually, you’ll get the spark.

Share your love with others.

The vow is one of the ways to show how well you know your future spouse. So your vow can be full of all the things that you already tell your significant other every day. Don’t be afraid to say simple stuff like “I love you” or “You always will be my Valentine.” Don’t think that using cliche is tacky: they are popular for a reason, and this reason is romance.

You can give a romantic twist to traditional vows from your and your fiance’s cultural background (especially if you are from different ones). This way, the vow will be something yours, but with a taste of your cultural identities.

Create a little retrospective, the reflection of your whole relationship, from the day you met, fell in love, and how you ended up here with all your friends and family around you.

Another cool and extremely romantic thing you can use in your vow is making unusual sweet promises. A vow should not be just a confirmation of love: you can add jokes, promise to buy milk, feed the cat, and give all the emotional support your spouse needs when their basketball team loses a game.

And if you don’t know how to end your vow, just say: “I will always love you,” and it will be really classy.

Preparation, preparation, preparation!

Now you got it: the tone, the words, and even the jokes. Now we highly recommend you to open an online camera and use it for a simple test run of your perfect vow. You see, one time Sophie Kinsella said: “I often hear funny conversations around me, but when I put them on paper, they are not funny at all!”.

So, even if you wrote the most beautiful piece that was ever created by a human being, it is possible that it can look great on paper and horrible when you say it. So take your time, use an online video camera or your smartphone, shoot a video and take a very good, critical look at your wedding vow from the outsider’s perspective.

It will help with fixing all the shortcomings and guarantee you a smashing success at your wedding.

Follow your heart

Frankly, you don’t really need any fancy love quotes, books, or movies. The thing you actually need is the love in your heart. It will give you the inspiration, the spark, and the passion for writing this special piece for your future spouse.

You may not know it, but you already have all the words inside of you. Make the vows in the form of a letter where you say everything you love and cherish about your fiance. Or right a lousy but romantic poem: trust us, it will be the gift of their life, no matter how simple the rhyme is.

You also can make the wow entirely from your inside jokes and quotes, or even on your special secret language. Remember that you do it only for you and your sweet fiance, so no matter what you will say, it is perfect if it comes from a place of love.

At the end of the aisle

Let us raise the glass and propose a wedding toast for you, beautiful future newlyweds! Now you and your fiance have all the tips you need to create perfect vows. Trust your gut and get some help when you need it, but do it with love, and it will come out perfect.

Have a happy rest of your lives together!