If you ask the average person about sex after marriage, many people will say something along the lines of: “Non-existent.” And while this may be true for some couples – particularly those who give up, fail to communicate, and are unwilling to put the work in – it doesn’t have to apply to you and your spouse!

So, start as you mean to go on by prioritising a steamy and intimate session on your wedding night, and prove to one another that tying the knot doesn’t have to mean closing your legs for good.

In this article, we’re going to share some sexy tips for ensuring a steamy and intimate session on your wedding night!

Setting the Stage: Creating a Romantic Atmosphere

Turn the lights down low, light some scented candles, and create a romantic and intimate ambiance. You may also wish to play some soft and sensual music to add to the relaxing and alluring atmosphere.

Choosing the Right Venue: Finding the Perfect Setting for Intimacy

When planning your wedding, one very important consideration is where you are both going to be spending the night together. Yes, you need to carefully consider your guests and their comfort, however, you and your spouse should be taking the honeymoon suite!

Alternatively, you can book yourselves in somewhere else entirely and slip off towards the end of the night when you are ready to have some alone time.

Selecting Comfortable Bedding: Ensuring a Cosy and Relaxing Experience

Wherever you decide to spend your wedding night, make sure that you have a spacious and comfortable bed with plush bedding and pillows to provide you with all the comfort and support you need to explore one another’s bodies.

Preparing Your Mind and Body: Self-Care and Relaxation Techniques

It’s important to try and prioritise self-care on your wedding day. Remember, your bridal party and groomsmen are there to support you, so leave any stress to them and focus on enjoying yourselves.

Similarly, as tempting as it is to enjoy the festivities and drink a skin-full of alcohol, make sure you slow down towards the end of the evening and focus on preparing your mind and body for intimacy.

 

Communicating Your Desires: Open and Honest Conversations with Your Partner

Don’t forget to discuss your desires, fantasies, and boundaries with your loved one. Foster an environment that allows open communication, and tease one another throughout the day about what’s to come when you finally find yourselves alone!

Adding Sensual Touches: Incorporating Lingerie and Erotic Accessories

Be sure to stash some sexy lingerie in your bedroom, coupled with any other erotic accessories such as scented oils and massage candles, etc.

Exploring the World of Sex Toys: Enhancing Pleasure and Intimacy

Additionally, it may be a fun time to introduce some sextoys into your relationship (if you aren’t already at that stage). Again, make sure you respect one another’s boundaries and desires.

Prioritising Foreplay: Building Anticipation and Connection

A fun way to ensure a steamy climax to your evening is to begin foreplay as early as possible (perhaps by sending each other steamy text messages, slipping notes to one another, and sneaking off for a cheeky kiss and a fondle at any given opportunity).

Also, when you do eventually get some alone time together when you have said your goodbyes, don’t feel pressured to rush into full intercourse. Instead, take your time and explore one another’s bodies, inch by inch.

Practising Safe and Consensual Intimacy: Using Protection and Consent

Don’t forget! Just because you’ve said “I do”, it doesn’t give you the freedom to do whatever you want in the bedroom, whenever you want.

Practise safe and consensual intimacy, use protection as necessary, and respect your partner’s pace.

Embracing the Moment: Letting Go of Expectations and Enjoying the Experience

Finally, try not to put too much pressure on the evening. For some people, the build-up and anticipation can be exhilarating; for others, it can be overwhelming or create feelings of anxiety or fear of inadequacy.

So, take your time, be respectful of one another, communicate openly, and most important of all: be present in the moment. All that matters is that you enjoy one another as best you can and set the stage for a long and fruitful marriage completed with a mutually empowering sex life.